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Raising Tweens and Teens:
Less drama. More joy.

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Our summit features interviews with these exceptional speakers.

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Katie Bell: Co-Founder, Healthy Teen Project

Did you know that when a teen says, “I want to start eating healthier foods?” it may be an indication that something’s not quite right? They may seem to be becoming more responsible–eliminating junk food, then fats–but it can progress to the elimination of carb or proteins, or an excessive interest in working out or dieting and…we need to pay attention. My conversation with Katie is loaded with vital information for parents of tweens and teens, girls and boys.

Why it is essential to address eating disordered behavior within the first three years to avoid a lifetime of struggle

  • 40-60% of elementary school girls (ages 6-12) are concerned about their weight. This concern endures through life. 
  • How to find the right kind of professional support if you suspect your youngster is developing an eating disorder
  • How to approach a youngster who is focusing excessively on dieting, working out, eating healthy, or eliminating more and more foods
  • Most adolescents go undiagnosed because they appear to be doing well in school and social activities
Michele Borba: Author, UnSelfie

In our lively conversation, Michele shared this statistic: teens today are 40% less empathetic and 58% more narcissistic than fifteen years ago. Since the capacity for empathy has been shown to be an essential element to fulfilling, successful adult lives, we need to make sure we foster that quality in our kids, while helping them face those who bully. A fascinating conversation packed with tips and important information!

  • Specific strategies for helping kids deal with a bully
  • How to find service projects that will make a meaningful impact on your kids’ lives beyond required Community Service
  • A great “out” for teens who might want your help when faced with risky situations where they can’t say “No”
  • How to connect with a teen who has pulled away
Jean Chatzky: Financial Editor, Today Show

This conversation is packed with gems! Jean is the Today show’s financial editor, and boy does she know her stuff. We covered everything from allowance (how much and what for?) to saving, getting a job to taking part in the family’s budgeting. An invaluable resource for parents who want raise kids who become financially confident, savvy adults.

  • Why having a job in high school is important, and how it doesn’t detract from good grades
  • How to handle allowance, from early years through college
  • Including student loans and debt in discussions about college choices
  • How to appropriately include kids in the family’s finances
Dr. Lisa Damour: Author, Untangled

My dialogue with Dr. Damour addresses some of your burning questions about how to help our tween and teen daughters deal with complicated social issues while educating us on how we can support them through the 7 transitions of adolescence. (Great info for parents of boys, too!)

  • “There’s no cure for the 7th grade”
  • How to handle mean girls–including your own daughter
  • Potted Plant Parenting
  • How to talk about sensitive, eggshell topics
  • The relief that comes from understanding the 7 transitions of adolescence
Dr. Julianna Deardorff: Co-author, The New Puberty

Did you know that a generation ago, less than 5% of girls started puberty before the age of 8 and that figure is now double? In this fascinating discussion you’ll learn about the risks and challenges of early puberty and ways to avoid the likelihood of its early onset. We also discuss boys, adolescence, and hormones. Essential viewing even for parents of very young  girls!

  • The dietary, environmental, and psychological factors that can contribute to early puberty
  • How to help children manage the many changes and challenges of puberty
  • The importance of talking about puberty and body changes with our kids–as early as possible
  • The risks of deodorant!
Bobbi DePorter: President, Quantum Learning Network

In this great interview, Bobbi talks about helping teens turn problems into strengths. She also explained her 8 Keys of character development program, sharing ways that we can cultivate qualities like integrity, ownership, and flexibility in our kids.

  • Three great tips for connecting with teens who have been pulling away
  • How to help kids establish a relaxed, focused state for greater success in learning
  • The importance of fostering authenticity in our teens
  • How to help kids learn to speak with good purpose–to build others up rather than tear them down
Yvonne and Rich Dutra St. John: Co-founders, Challenge Day

Yvonne and Rich are doing some of the most important work on the planet. At a time when bullying and intolerance are running rampant, listen as they talk about the simple ways we can open our kids to really see one another, and be seen in ways they long for.

  • Even the most hardened kids long for acceptance and connection
  • How If you really knew me  can transform a parent-teen relationship
  • How to read our teens cries for help
  • How to bring Challenge Day into your school and address bullying at its root–permanently
Prince Ea: Spoken word artist, poet, rapper and filmmaker

I met Prince last year at a book party. His powerful videos have been shared over 500 million times on everything from self-acceptance to recognizing the genius in each one of us. Oprah calls him “a visionary filmmaker.” Listen and learn from this wise young man, and if you want to spark a real dialogue with your tween or teen, watch his videos together and see where the conversation takes you!

  • What our teens most need from us
  • How he changed from being a mediocre student to a passionate one
  • The many ways we can learn from our kids, if we are open
  • How Multiple Intelligence theory can help every kid recognize their unique genius
Jeff Goelitz: Program Developer, HeartMath Institute

This dialogue is fascinating as well as deeply calming–like Deborah and Jeff! We speak about how to help kids recognize signs of stress and learn strategies for making practical adjustments in the moment to regain their center. You’ll even get to join us for a very short, beautifully meditation at the end!

  • Why our words don’t really help kids manage stress
  • A quick coherence technique that can change stress hormones and restore balance to the nervous system
  • How to ratchet down emotional intensity when you’re frustrated with your teen
  • How to reduce drama in 14 to 18 year olds
Andres Gonzalez: Co-Founder, Holistic Life Foundation, Inc.

After my conversation with Andy Gonzalez I just sat quietly for a few minutes, reflecting on how the  difference he and his partners Ali and Atman Smith are making in this increasingly stressful world. If you have a teen who gets moody, angry, worried or overwhelmed, please catch this interview. There’s a short mindful practice  at the end–a little bonus for you!

  • How to help teens develop an inner anchor that will steady them during rough times
  • A two-step, practical way to help kids avoid getting triggered when upsetting things happen
  • How to approach kids who think yoga or meditation are “stupid”
  • The transformative affects of a quieting practice for even the most angry, impulsive kids
Dr. Michael Gurian: Author, The Wonder of Boys & The Wonder of Girls

This conversation covered everything from talking with our boys about sex and porn to dealing with a teen who’s regularly using pot or alcohol. Dr. Gurian  helps make sense of a wide range of issues through the lens of understanding the male brain, including anger, depression, emotional expression, motivation, and loads more. Not to be missed!

  • Why boys have a harder time with emotion, and are more prone to anger
  • Empowering sensitive sons to handle bullies
  • Guidelines for ensuring our boys can enjoy video games while balancing cognitive, physical, and social-emotional needs
  • The difference between aggression and violence–and how to help our sons cope with anger
Dr. Michael Hollander: Author, Helping Teens Who Cut

Dr. Hollander is an expert in self-injury–a maladaptive behavior becoming increasingly prevalent in kids as young as nine. In this dialogue you’ll learn why young people engage in self harm (cutting, picking, burning) and most importantly, how to approach a youngster who is attempting to find relief through these behaviors.

  • How self-injury becomes compelling for tweens and teens as a way of finding relief from emotional pain
  • What parents can do if they suspect their teen is engaging in self-injury.
  • How to handle a youngster’s resistance to therapy when your instinct says it’s time to get professional help
  • The importance of our own self-care when our child is going through something difficult
Dr. Louise Greenspan: Co-author, The New Puberty

Did you know that a generation ago, less than 5% of girls started puberty before the age of 8 and that figure is now double? In this fascinating discussion you’ll learn about the risks and challenges of early puberty and ways to avoid the likelihood of its early onset. We also discuss boys, adolescence, and hormones. Essential viewing even for parents of very young  girls!

  • The dietary, environmental, and psychological factors that can contribute to early puberty
  • How to help children manage the many changes and challenges of puberty
  • The importance of talking about puberty and body changes with our kids–as early as possible
  • The risks of deodorant!
Byron Katie: Author, Loving What Is

Byron Katie is a speaker and and the author of Loving What Is. Since 1986, she has brought a powerful process of inquiry she calls The Work to millions of people across the world, at free public events, in prisons, hospitals, churches, corporations, universities, schools, at weekend workshops, at her amazing nine-day School for The Work, and through the Institute for The Work. TheWork.com

Amy Lang: Sexual health educator, Birds+Bees+Kids

In this terrific conversation, Amy is fearless, diving into everything from porn (“it’s a fact of modern life and modern parenting and we need to get as far ahead of it as we can”) to how to help our kids handle  situations when their bodies get way ahead of their brains.

  • Why “No means No” is dead, and what to do instead
  • How to handle our own awkwardness about having those “talks”
  • What to do when your kids have inadvertently stumbled on porn
  • How to talk about sex with kids so they won’t run from the room!
Julie Lythcott-Haims: Author, How To Raise An Adult

This woman is on fire! I had such a great time talking with Julie about the habits, mindset, and skills our kids need to be successful wherever they go in life. As Stanford University’s Dean of Freshman she saw kids entering college increasingly anxious, depressed, and withered. Tune in to learn how you can help your teen develop an internal sense of confidence and resilience.

  • How technology is (negatively) impacting the parent-child relationship
  • The dangers of the Checklisted Childhood
  • Why our kids need chores, and more on self-efficacy versus self-esteem
  • How over-parenting is contributing to increasing rates of depression and anxiety in our kids
DeQuincy Lezine: author, Eight Stories Up

Suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death among teenagers, and statistics suggest it is on the rise. Parent, please tune in to this important conversation with Dr. Lezine who speaks from experience: he attempted suicide three times in his freshman year at Brown University and now oversees mental health programs to help students get help when they need it.

  • Identifying risk factors and warning signs for suicide
  • Helping kids manage perfectionism or unrealistic expectations to avoid heading toward hopelessness
  • Encouraging teens to get help when it is needed
  • What to do when a youngster says things like, “I want to die” or “Life is just too hard.”
Jessica Morey: Executive Director, Inward Bound Mindfulness Education

I met Jessica at the Wisdom 2.0 conference and was immediately impressed by her passion for creating a safe, nurturing retreat for teens. In this conversation, you’ll hear us talking about ways to foster closer connection with our teens, and what she’s learned from spending time with thousands of teens in IBME retreats.

  • Discuss the 5 elements that foster attachment and help launch teen into a confident, resilient, well-adjusted adult
  • Great info on the teen brain: How emotionality, risk-taking, intense social engagement, and those wild creative pursuits are essential behaviors
  • Tips for handling tumultuous teen behavior
  • Dealing with disrespect and rudeness
Alanis Morissette: Musician, speaker, teacher, writer

Alanis is an insatiable learner who reaches beneath the surface of behavior to understand its origins. In our conversation, she spoke with great candor about the challenges she faced with eating disorders, beginning in her early teen years, and how she found her way to health. Tremendously important information for parents delivered with great love and care.

  • The importance of uncoupling emotions from eating
  • Educating our kids about the body, food, and nutrition
  • Steering clear of avoidance, micro-management, shame, or control
  • Why managing ones eating has nothing to do with willpower
Dr. Johanna Olsen: Medical Director, Center for Transyouth Health and Development, CHLA

Johanna Olson, MD is an Adolescent Medicine physician specializing in the care of gender non-conforming children and transgender youth, and is considered a national expert in this area. Dr. Olson has been an Assistant Professor at Children’s Hospital Los Angeles for the past nine years and is the Medical Director of CHLA’s Center for Transyouth Health and Development, which is the largest transgender youth clinic in the United States. Dr. Olson has appeared frequently on national television, and spoken all over the country to educate providers, parents, and other communities about the needs of transgender youth.

Deborah Rozman: President/CEO, HeartMath

This dialogue is fascinating as well as deeply calming–like Deborah and Jeff! We speak about how to help kids recognize signs of stress and learn strategies for making practical adjustments in the moment to regain their center. You’ll even get to join us for a very short, beautifully meditation at the end!

  • Why our words don’t really help kids manage stress
  • A quick coherence technique that can change stress hormones and restore balance to the nervous system
  • How to ratchet down emotional intensity when you’re frustrated with your teen
  • How to reduce drama in 14 to 18 year olds
Dr. Dan Siegel: Author, Brainstorm, The Whole-Brain Child

Dr. Siegel offers a wealth of information that can help us understand our teen’s developing brain. You’ll understand why those risky, novelty-seeking, defiant behaviors are essential to adolescent development and how to help our teens make good decisions.

  • The ESSENCE model of understanding the teen brain
  • How social engagement serves the developing adolescent
  • The myth of “raging hormones”
  • The value of a long adolescence, and what we can learn from our teens’ transformation
Josh Shipp: Teen advocate and documentarian

I was immediately taken by Josh’s energy and passion. He speaks from the heart about what turned his life around after thirteen foster homes and a truly hardened heart. Listen to him share how we can reach kids who seem to have given up. A powerful conversation.

  • The two things our teens need from us to thrive (consistent encouragement and consistent consequences)
  • Steps to take if youngster is in trouble–or headed that way
  • Risk of prematurely bailing a youngster out of a difficulty
  • Ways to encourage a teen to try counseling if it’s clearly needed
Rachel Macy Stafford: Author, Hands Free Mama, and Only Love Today

Rachel is such a breath of fresh air. In our conversation, you’ll hear her talk about simple ways to deepen connection with our tweens and teens, even in the midst of busy lives. So much great information here!

  • The one thing teens wish their parents would do
  • What we can learn by envisioning our kids living alone in their first apartment
  • How to empower teens to know that their voice matters
  • Why “How would you do it?” is such an essential question
  • Using our Best Ten Minutes
  • The challenge of letting go of perfection and micro-managing our kids
Laurence Steinberg: author, Age of Opportunity

I could have spoken for hours with Dr. Steinberg; our conversation began with his sharing that raising teens is NOT the root canal of our parenting lives! We discussed how development between 12 to 25 may be just as important as the first five years of live that we long believed were most essential–so it’s not too late to make a big difference in your teen’s prospects for a happy life. Not to be missed!

  • Why nurturing the capacity for self-control is one of the greatest predictors of a successful life
  • Why drug or alcohol use before the age of 15 puts our kids 7 to 10 times greater risk for addiction
  • How to talk with teens about the impact of drugs and alcohol on their developing brain
  • Why the adolescent brain is wired for risk-taking, and what we can do to mitigate
Rosalind Wiseman: Author, Queen Bees and Wannabes and Masterminds & Wingmen

I love talking with Rosalind! In this conversation, we cover all kinds of aspects of raising teens, including provocative dressing, sexting, lying, and talking frankly about sex.

  • Helping boys become more comfortable opening up and expressing emotions other than frustration & anger
  • Sexting
  • Truths about teens and sexuality
  • Talking about consent
  • Provocative dressing
  • When kids lie about where they are and what they’re up to
  • What to do when kid is in trouble

 

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