Susan’s Sharings

Most children feel like the majority of our conversations with them are focused on getting them to do something they don’t want to do. They see us coming, list in hand (literally or figuratively) and brace themselves to resist as long as possible. Typically, whatever it is we want them to do is much less enjoyable than what they’re already doing.

Think about it. Your daughter is tucked into a warm bed, cozy and happy, knowing she’s home with Mommy, and life is good. Your first interaction of the day is designed to remove her from that yummy bed and get her clothes on so she can leave home and go to a place where someone else tells her what to do for six hours. I’m not suggesting she shouldn’t go to school, or that she won’t enjoy it once she gets there, but for most children, there’s a strong preference to be at home, which means the battles begin from the moment they awaken.

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Is Guilt a Necessity in Parenting?

Is Guilt a Necessity in Parenting?

Parents often maintain a double standard when it comes to setting expectations for themselves and their children. We delive "atta boys" and "good job!" to our kids for making even the smallest effort. We give children trophies just for showing up, dishing out praise...

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Something in My Shoe

Something in My Shoe

This morning, I set out on a walk, only to discover that something wasn’t right with my shoe. I decided that whatever was wrong wasn’t fixable and that I’d best adjust to the discomfort and carry on. After awhile I couldn’t ignore the fact that with every step, my...

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Toddler’s Tantrums Wearing Us Out!

Toddler’s Tantrums Wearing Us Out!

Our job as parents is to do our best to avoid sailing into the rough waters that can cause our little ones to lose their footing and fall apart. But no matter how hard we try to prevent our children from having tantrums, there may still be times when they cannot cope with whatever demand has been placed on them. Perhaps they’re tired or hungry, or they could be feeling overly jealous or hurt.

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My Kids Used to Think I Hung the Moon

My Kids Used to Think I Hung the Moon

Sometimes when I pick my kids up from school they act like I’ve ruined their day just by showing up. Gone is the toddler phase when they came running to greet me. Now they would rather be with their friends than me. I am hurt because they don’t want to be around me...

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My Teen Daughter’s Only Passion is her Cell Phone!

My Teen Daughter’s Only Passion is her Cell Phone!

I know you talk about helping children find their passion, but my 15-year-old daughter doesn’t seem to have any. The only thing she wants to do is text her friends or go shopping. I don’t consider these passions! She used to love creative writing and made up cute...

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“Teenage Daughter Was My Best Friend–and Now She Hates Me!”

“Teenage Daughter Was My Best Friend–and Now She Hates Me!”

First, let me say in big, bold letters: Your daughter cannot be your best friend. Perhaps the two of you have been very close, but it is not appropriate for a child to perceived her parent as her closest friend. You are her mother. While the two of you may become like best friends as she moves further into adulthood, you have to create boundaries with your teenage daughter that clearly establish for her that you are her parent, not her friend. Pleading with her to be nice, or lecturing her on how you’ve done nothing to deserve her mistreatment, will only come across as needy and weak, fueling her contempt.

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